Over the years, I have learned that there will always be haters, people who will try their best to kill your dreams. They will do this to make themselves feel better at your expense. At the same time the others who are inspired by seeing you live your dreams.
My mother always shared with me the value of hanging out with the right people. It’s some of the best advice that a parent can give. We are a reflection of the people we spend the most time with. When you are around people who are chasing after and accomplishing their dreams, then you will achieve your dreams too. When you spend time around positive and productive people, they help insulate you from the negativity and dream crushing possibilities the world can throw at you.
Over the years, I have learned that there will always be haters, people who will try their best to kill your dreams. Owning a business is like riding a rollercoaster. There are lots of ups and downs. Operating your own business requires a lot of dedication, focus, motivation and perseverance.
Many people get to see the fun side of my business on social media and in person. Only a select few get to see the not so fun stuff needed to run my business...contract negotiations, financial paperwork, legalese, phone calls, travel delays and staying in a cornucopia of hotels.
I do what I do because I want to take care of my family and help people and organizations around the world become positive difference makers and life changers. I work hard to keep myself around positive people and positive environments.
These actions help insulate me from the negativity society bombards us with daily. It’s my negativity force field. What do you do to protect yourself from negativity?
When Frank Kitchen Enterprises celebrated its first anniversary as a full-time business, I experienced a moment of negativity. You know what I’m talking about, a moment that can ruin your day. I was contacting potential clients about speaking opportunities. I was lucky enough to get in contact with someone who really “loved” their job. The gentlemen took it upon himself to share his “love” of his job with me. He let me know that I needed to get a real job and give up professional speaking as a career. He let me know that youth don't like speakers and they forget the message of the speaker before they get off the stage.
I attempted several times to get off the phone by thanking him for his advice, but he just kept “sharing” his advice and honesty with me. The comment I loved the most was when he asked, “Am I making you cry?” several times. I think I upset him when I replied, "no I'm not crying." I finally managed to end the call.
I could have let my phone experience ruin my day or rethink my choice to be a business owner, but I didn't. Why? Negative experiences are going to happen. How we deal with these experiences determines how successful we can be.
Success is the ability to live a dream, your dream. The ability to live your passion or purpose. The people I surround myself with and the environments I choose to be in greatly affect my ability to deal with negative experiences.
After ending the call, I spoke with several of my brothers and sisters in the professional speaking world. They all gave me the same pep talk, “Don’t allow him to pass his negativity onto you. There are people in the world who only feel better by making someone else feel worse than them.” I got back to work making more phone calls and replying to emails. I smiled when I received several positive messages from students and professionals who attended my events that year and remembered my message. I smiled even bigger when I received two emails from organizations requesting information on how to book me for their upcoming events.
When you have a dream you want to live, don't allow someone who doesn't know you, care about you, or possess a negative attitude to determine how you feel about yourself and your pursuits. When you place yourself in an environment with a positive culture with productive people, you’ll be able to deal with negativity in a positive and productive way.