Frank Kitchen Enterprises just celebrated its first anniversary as a full-time business. Owning a business is like riding a rollercoaster. There are lots of ups and downs. Operating your own business requires a lot of dedication, focus, motivation and perseverance.
Many people get to see the fun side of my business on social media and in person. Only a select few get to see the not so fun stuff needed to run my business...contract negotiations, financial paperwork, legalese, phone calls, travel delays and staying in a cornucopia of hotels.
I do what I do because I want to take care of my family and help people and organizations around the world become positive difference makers and life changers. I work hard to keep myself around positive people, in positive environments and most importantly I study and experience cultures that are positive and productive. I’ve also been studying the Bible. My actions help insulate me from the constant negativity society can bombard us with daily. It’s my negativity force field. What do you do to develop personally or professionally?
Recently I experienced one of those personal and professional development moments. You know what I’m talking about, a moment that can ruin your day. I was contacting potential clients about speaking opportunities. I was lucky enough to get in contact with someone who really “loved” their job. The gentlemen took it upon himself share his “love” of his job with me. He let me know that I needed to get a real job and give up speaking as a career. He let me know that youth don't like speakers and they forget the message of the speaker before they get off the stage. I attempted several times to get off the phone by thanking him for his advice, but he just kept “sharing” his advice and honesty with me. The comment I loved the most was when he asked, “Am I making you cry?” several times. I think I upset him when I replied, "no I'm not crying." I finally managed to end the call.
I could have let my phone experience ruin my day or rethink my choice to be a business owner, but I didn't. Why? Negative experiences are going to happen. How we deal these experiences determines how successful we can be. Success is the ability to live a dream, passion or purpose. The people I surround myself with and environments I choose to be in greatly affect my ability to deal with negative experiences.
After ending the call, I made several more calls and replied to several emails. I smiled when I received several positive messages from students and professionals who attended my events this year and remembered my message. I smiled even bigger when I received two emails from organizations requesting information on how to book me for their upcoming events.
If you have a dream, a passion or a purpose you want to live, don't allow someone who doesn't know you, care about you, or posses a negative attitude determine how you feel about yourself and your pursuits. When you place yourself in an environment with a positive and productive culture, you’ll be able to deal with negativity in a positive and productive way.